when i look on the internet, they always tell you, you have to buy a book.
time is running out and my ex is moving further apart from me.

pleaseplease. help,
post some of the tips and tricks and stuff on how to get your ex back some of the stuff it says ion the ebooks and stuff, im really curious

PLEASE HELP.

Alicia,

If you want to get ex back, there are some things that you can do:

Cut off all contact for a while. This one is probably going to be the hardest. You should stop talking to him for 2-4 weeks. That means no IM’s, no email, no phone calls, no texts, nothing.

I know this sounds like it should be the opposite. Your gut reaction is going to be that you want to talk to them work it out, tell them how much you care, etc…

However, this is not the time to do it.

Why? Because they won’t want to deal with you when you seem "desperate" or "clingy."

If you cut them off, then contact them again after a few weeks, it will make them curious as to where you went and what you have been up to.

In fact from your question, I have the feeling you’re communicating too much with him which is what is helping to push him further away.

Stay active. Sitting around feeling sorry for yourself isn’t going to do you any good. Now is a good time to find a new hobby or hang out with friends even more.

Try dating someone new. Yes, you’re not really in the mood to be with anyone else right now. That’s understandable, but there’s nothing wrong with getting out and getting to know someone.

Start exercising, if you don’t already.

Exercise is good for two reasons:

It will not only help you to look better, it will also help you to feel better. Having some new confidence can actually help to get your ex back. If you are looking good and feeling good, they will notice.

There is a lot more detailed information at the site mentioned in my resource box. I wish you good luck and I hope that things work out for you. If you follow the tips I’ve given you and check out the resource you may just get ex back.

Ok you have an ex boyfriend who just broke up with you. You want to get him back, not get over him. You really love him. You need to show him you love him. How do you do that?
the only reason he broke up with you is because he thinks you dont care about him as much.

First, you are going to want to ask yourself four vital questions. These are really important questions when it comes to figuring out how to get your ex boyfriend back.

- Is the matter that caused the breakup actually important enough to warrant the attention it is getting?

- Is it even really appropriate to argue about this matter right now?

- Can anything be changed or made different by prevailing in the argument or is it more worthwhile to just nip the argument in the bud and move on?

- Is the issue even worth arguing about in the first place?

If you answer no to any of the aforementioned questions, then stop pressing the matter and let it slide. Many break ups can be prevented or quickly rekindled if a large argument is settled. Surprisingly enough, many breakup inducing argument are really completely unnecessary, and could be cast aside if only the parties involved could let the tension slide and move on.

The next step to learning how to get your ex boyfriend back is to stop fretting so hard about how you are being perceived. It really does not matter if people think you are funny or too serious, fat or too thin, stupid or intelligent. You want to let go on these concerns so that you can finally be yourself and let your behavior flow. This way, people like your ex boyfriend will perceive you for who you actually are, rather than who you are trying to be.

Emotionally and mentally distancing yourself from your ex is an important step in learning how to get your ex boyfriend back. While this may seem counterintuitive, it is actually important to take yourself out of the situation mentally, removing the stress associated with the break up. When you are feeling more calmed and relaxed, and he is feeling the same, this is when true resolution can finally become a part of the dialogue between the two of you. A little bit of distance never hurt anyone. It’s important to stay in contact and maintain positive conversation and communication, but take the emotions out of the situation if you want to survive the conversation.

Once your head is clear, and his head is clear, this is when the situation can be truly analyzed for what it is. When you and your ex are no longer feeling so hot headed about the issue that led to the breakup, this is when you can sit down together and communicate through a solution.

Most breakups can be easily undone if you and your ex boyfriend can simply find the patience and civility to talk things through, so this should be your primary goal if you want to rekindle the flame with an ex significant other that you care significantly for.

My ex sounded like she was having some problems after I met up with her recently (most notably being lonely), so I invited her to hang out sometimes, especially since she’ll be returning to her home country in less than a year. She didn’t text me back until two days later though, (and I’m sure she got it earlier), so do you think that means she’s playing a game?

It could be… but she also could have been genuinely busy.

Especially if she’s having some problems like you mentioned above, she could be experiencing some form of depression (which often hinders your ability to get out of bed, return messages, etc.)

You would really know better than any of us on Y!A. Is she the type to play games? It also depends on the response once she did indeed text back.

Some people don’t have their phones attached to them every second of the day. I am one of these people. Yes, I will admit, when it’s on me, I am sometimes an SMS banshee, but other times, I will forget about it completely and fail to return messages in a timely manner.

Don’t read too much into it! Especially if you’re only trying to be her friend. Does it really matter that she didn’t get back to you right away?

Sounds to me like you might still have lingering feelings… if so, you have a lot to consider. I would recommend squashing these if possible, since she’s moving back to her home country, as you mentioned.

Good luck!

It’s just that I want other opinions, because they market this stuff to seem like its a sure fire way to get her back. Smoke and mirrors or do you have experiences that can help better than their advice does. Looking for honest answers please. (Do a Google search on "How Do I Get My Ex Girlfriend Back? …Number one relationship killer) and let me know what you think.

make them jealous that’s the best way

Does anyone have a story where their ex came back to them after they broke up with you? I need some hope/inspiration.

Yes, even after the face he broke up with me. I did the no contact, it worked. Do not contact them for 2 weeks at least, make them miss you as most certainly they will also be thinking about you. But also thinking about the relationship as well as they may need time. If you do need to contact them don’t talk about the relationship too much. Just a nice hello will do and maybe an apology. Then wait a few days before contacting them again. Don’t lose your dignity and seem needy.

Let’s say you run into an ex after a year, and they are looking really hot. How would that make you feel? Would it at least make you think about getting back?

It depends why we broke up in the first place. If it was for good reasons, no. It would definitely make me want to get WITH her though if you get what I’m saying haha. If its an issue that has fixed itself over a year, maybe. I have always told myself i won’t get back with a girl after she becomes my ex, because quite frankly there was a reason we broke up, and it usually never works the next five times around. Its just drama. So yeah, it just depends on why we broke up i guess.

Not just where you know that it was meant to be. I mean when it seemed as though you two wouldnt get back together ever again. I just got my ex bf back after 2 years and its so perfect I never thought we would date again i simply let him go and time really flew by.

well right now im just clean out of a relationship which is something i really didnt want but im trying not to care and maybe someday well get back together if she comes to her senses but its up to her i think its really a matter of that " let the one you love go if they come back they were always yours if they dont they never were" kind of thing but congratulations your one of the lucky ones good luck that you dont break up again

my ex nd i were dating for a year and a half. then he dumped me because he doesnt feel the "spark" anymore. But he said when he feels it again he might come back. we have been broiken up for 2 weeks. what do i do?

go to an event you know he’ll be at, dress knock dead sexy, barely talk to him, and instead leave with one of his friends.

Me and My ex boyfriend are juniors in highschool. He broke up with me back in July after being in a relationship for 9 months mostly because I was VERY clingy. We were extremely close to eachother and our familys and we both really loved eachother. The breakup was rough especially for me since I was the one who got dumped and it was totally unexpected. We had no communication for almost 4 months until we started talking again back in november and now we hangout at least once a week. We still kiss eachother and "hookup" and when we’re together he treats me as if im still his girlfriend, he pays for me whenever we go out, cuddles with me, and he isn’t afraid to kiss me at school or in front of his close friends, he even holds my hand in public. I finally brought it up that I’m starting to have feelings for him again last night after we spent the night together and he took me home and i started to cry because i told him i still care for him and have feeling for him, he listened to me and said he needed to think. So today i talked to him and asked him if he had thought about what i said last night and he said "Yeah.. I do have feelings for you but I don’t want a relationship with you not yet at least, I need to figure things out." is this a good thing? how can i get him back ? :/

You are clingy. The guy wants space so respect that and give it to him. Not only that, I think it’s also prickish that he keeps leading you on into think that you two might get back together by acting like you’re both together again (i.e. kissing, holding hands, hugging) yet he ‘needs to figure things out’. It seems like he putting a leash on you so you won’t go anywhere while he seens greener pastures. I think it’s best that you do the same. Go and figure things out. And don’t kiss him anymore. You’re only hurting yourself.

How do you win your ex boyfriend back after he’s been in a relationship (rebound?) with someone? Should I start talking to him right after they split up? It worries me that he will feel I’ve been sitting and waiting for him to break during the time his relationship with the other girl lasted. What’s the best way to approach him?

dont want them.. and as soon as you dont want them they will want you